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This Girl I love is fucking me about so much, we havent dated or anything but fuck I want to. it started off me telling her I liked her and her just not saying anything back, then I asked her how she felt about me and she basically said its not that I dont wanna be with you its that im not ready for a relationship, but recently we have been getting really close and we were at a concert the other day and I wanted to kiss her so bad but didnt cause I wont hurt her again (once I pushed her really far about how she felt about me and she got real upset) at this concert the guy sung a song called I love you (how fucking typical) and I looked at her and our eyes met and I was sure I felt something from her but then the other day I find out that apparently she is going out with someone else. Then yesterday I found out this guy asked ehr out when she was pissed and they arent actually going out but when I asked her if she was going out with him I had a huge go at her and she didnt tell me that the werent, and when I was saying it she just said it wuold be better if we were just friends, bu I dont think she meant it or not I just dno wat to do, any advice people?
btw this has all happened over about 6 months it wasnt all one conversation
Ni99aRuss
05-27-2004, 04:24 PM
Well honestly man it doesnt sound like she is looking at you as the boyfriend type. Its a bad idea to keep hounding her and pressuring her into a situation. If i were you i would back off some and wait...if she is interested in you this is when you will find out because if she notices you backing off it will turn the tables and soon enough she will be the one chasing you. Now if she really isnt interested in you then she will not care if you back off, but if she is she will come. So, just go a few days without calling her, or even try meeting other people. If she hears you are seeing other people that will really grab her attention. This advice is pretty much make it or break it, but it is better than trying force an issue.
VelvetAcid
05-27-2004, 04:28 PM
She doesn't like you. how hard is that? :thumbsdn: www.diemehrheit.tk
Well honestly man it doesnt sound like she is looking at you as the boyfriend type. Its a bad idea to keep hounding her and pressuring her into a situation. If i were you i would back off some and wait...if she is interested in you this is when you will find out because if she notices you backing off it will turn the tables and soon enough she will be the one chasing you. Now if she really isnt interested in you then she will not care if you back off, but if she is she will come. So, just go a few days without calling her, or even try meeting other people. If she hears you are seeing other people that will really grab her attention. This advice is pretty much make it or break it, but it is better than trying force an issue.
I tried that, we were at a concert and I just left her with some of our other friends, but she came and found me...
magnolia
05-28-2004, 02:33 PM
I think that she's hurting you way more than you're hurting her. I know that this is hard, but maybe you should put her out of your mind. Have a pick me upper time. Do something you love with a friend. It's hard, but if you're meant to be together, you will be, and if you're not....there'll be someone better out there for you somewhere.
Chris
05-28-2004, 03:18 PM
Sorry, mate, you'll just have to try to find someone else, but that is kinda bitchy of her...she didn't even tell you she was dating the other dicknose before you found out? btw, how old are you and that girl?
15, and dont say im too young to fall in love cause ive had enough of it from other pple, i know how I feel and i kno i love her and they arent actually going out she was pissed when he asked her and i dont blame her for that at all, she didnt really have a chance to tell me before i found out wat happened
gumercules
05-28-2004, 06:34 PM
i had a similar situation, a girl i was interested in for 3 years (through college) but every time i thought we were getting closer she would shy away, and then when i backed off she would get closer
repeat ad nauseam
i ended up deciding it just wouldn't work and found myself an awesome girlfriend, and i'm much happier now than i could have been with her. so just go with the flow, but keep your eyes open too
Im thinking about just asking her straight out, just say to her do you think there will ever be anything between us or whether we will get together or not and then depending on her answer, try and get over her, go out with her, or carry on waiting
ash_361
05-29-2004, 07:55 AM
that sounds like a good idea
Hey bud your not the brightest bulb are you?She does'nt want you move on lamo
_Kitana_
05-30-2004, 08:13 AM
Hey bud your not the brightest bulb are you?She does'nt want you move on lamo
i was thinking the same thing...
lol
well thanks for that vote of confidence and fuck I wish it was that easy
_Kitana_
06-01-2004, 07:10 AM
well thanks for that vote of confidence and fuck I wish it was that easy
you know, confidences comes from with in, not from other.
:)
dustinzgirl
06-01-2004, 07:22 AM
seriously find another hole. your a bit obsessed and that is not sexy. still be her friend but get a gf and go have safe sex. then you dont have to worry about how she really feels, youre keeping busy, and you still get to be near her.
win win for a guy.
MrNewbie
06-01-2004, 08:34 AM
Yeah I had an similiar situation, but I wasn't interested in her, she was interested in me, but I really wasn't and she was on me all the time saying of she liked me... It was quite annoying but if he havn't given you the straight -I dont like you we can be friends- then you should ask her, but I think that you said she had said it?? Well then I think you should more think about if you can handle to be her friend then starting a relation ship with her. Good luck.
jamesp
06-01-2004, 10:46 AM
Im thinking about just asking her straight out, just say to her do you think there will ever be anything between us or whether we will get together or not and then depending on her answer, try and get over her, go out with her, or carry on waiting
I wouldn't do that friend, because no matter what you say, you are going to get your hopes up for the answer that you want and you're not going to get that answer. maybe she will say something small that will keep your hopes up, but you don't want to chase her around. Trust me, been there. Just back off, and cast your line a little more, there are PLENTY of bigger, better fish out there.
oh just fuck her found out she really is going out with this guy and shes fucking been lieing to me and my friend about it, she gave the guy head ffs, just fuck her
fuck and now today someone goes up to her and asks her if shes going out with him and she says i dont know wtf is wrong with her
CopyLifted
06-09-2004, 12:29 PM
I think your sig says it all.
I just dont get her, why does she find it so hard to tell me the truth and be straight with me?
CopyLifted
06-09-2004, 04:00 PM
Maybe she doesn't want to run you off in case it doesn't work out with the other guy. Which, in my book, is pretty weak.
See, without you knowing the whole (real) story, you haven't told her to fuck off yet. It's working.
So, who gives a fuck what she is doing, cause she's not doing it with you. Tell her to FUCK OFF already and be done with it!!
Ctoit
06-09-2004, 04:28 PM
This Girl I love is fucking me about so much, we havent dated or anything but fuck I want to. it started off me telling her I liked her and her just not saying anything back, then I asked her how she felt about me and she basically said its not that I dont wanna be with you its that im not ready for a relationship, but recently we have been getting really close and we were at a concert the other day and I wanted to kiss her so bad but didnt cause I wont hurt her again (once I pushed her really far about how she felt about me and she got real upset) at this concert the guy sung a song called I love you (how fucking typical) and I looked at her and our eyes met and I was sure I felt something from her but then the other day I find out that apparently she is going out with someone else. Then yesterday I found out this guy asked ehr out when she was pissed and they arent actually going out but when I asked her if she was going out with him I had a huge go at her and she didnt tell me that the werent, and when I was saying it she just said it wuold be better if we were just friends, bu I dont think she meant it or not I just dno wat to do, any advice people?
Ever hear the saying "dont know what you got until its gone" maybe you should try being gone.........if she wants a relationship with you, she'll be back, she knows how you feel.
CopyLifted
06-10-2004, 11:21 AM
Ever hear the saying "dont know what you got until its gone" maybe you should try being gone.........if she wants a relationship with you, she'll be back, she knows how you feel.
That might work, but the way I see it is if they don't know what they got while it's there, then they don't deserve it.
It makes it more difficult as we are good friends and we have been good friends since we first met and neither of us want our friendship to end, shes said that to me and ive said it to her and I can tell she means it cause when I distance myself from her she tries to come over and talk to me, ive taken up the policy that I wont speak to her unless she speaks to me and im gna try and stick to that
CopyLifted
06-10-2004, 01:58 PM
It makes it more difficult as we are good friends and we have been good friends since we first met and neither of us want our friendship to end, shes said that to me and ive said it to her and I can tell she means it cause when I distance myself from her she tries to come over and talk to me, ive taken up the policy that I wont speak to her unless she speaks to me and im gna try and stick to that
I think your answer is right there in your last post.
She just wants to be friends and doesn't want your friendship to end. By her not being straight up with you is her way of protecting her friendship with you. If she tells you "yeah, this is my boyfriend", you will probably end your friendship with her, and she don't want that.
The problem is you want her to be your girlfriend, and honestly, I don't see that happening. You are going to have to decide if you can be friends with her only, or cut all ties with her. Because honestly, if you can't be "just" friends with her, it will tear you up.
The_DEA
06-10-2004, 02:05 PM
i had a similar situation, a girl i was interested in for 3 years (through college) but every time i thought we were getting closer she would shy away, and then when i backed off she would get closer
repeat ad nauseam
i ended up deciding it just wouldn't work and found myself an awesome girlfriend, and i'm much happier now than i could have been with her. so just go with the flow, but keep your eyes open tooyou think she is cool cause she takes it in the butt!!!
I managed it before so I guess I can manage it now