Turn offs? Turn ons?

[TinkerBell]

The guys have a thread like this going on and I'd like to hear some input from the better gender!

My Turnoffs are smoking (i'm allergic to it) Porn addiction(now I like watching with my man, but dislike him watching it alone CONSTANTLY)cheesy pick up lines(good lord those wont get you laid AT ALL) Uncleanliness(which includes body, home, etc)

Now I have many turnons such as a nice butt flat tummy, deep soft voice, mm and speedos Ive also noticed some colognes have got me going lately. weird. I also think tattoos are cool theya ren't a turn on but they aren't a turn off. But I like em on guys. muscles are a major turn on. I honestly cant think of much more right now.

So what are you guys opinions etc.

[meh_it_all]

Hmmm, I have many turn ons.. tall girls. mm. I love a guy's back too, for some reason. Oh and their shoulders. And arms... Also, I like guys who wear baggy jeans, and you see their boxers. Yeah.
colonges are nice, aswell, A guy smells nice, and I'll like jelly in their hands.
I like a bit of stubble, or facial hair.
I have loads of others...



Turns off, Are guys.. that don't wash a lot. But can be sweaty. :) And hmm, I don't have a lot of turn offs that come to mind. Oh yeah bad pick up lines, and people who think they're better than you.


:D ;)

[Nymphchick]

hmmmm i got stuck on the speedo part of your post. i'm not too sure how it is a turn on. when i think speedo i think this: http://www.nutimesnewroman.neu.edu/v3i4/assets/articles/sleaze.jpg
i hope the link works.
turn ons for me:
i'm an ass girl, got to have a nice ass
nice eyes
i like a strong personality, not over bearing, but he can hold his own, have peoples respect
got to be funny, i love to laugh and laugh a lot
tattoos
goati's hmmmmm hope i spelt that right
smart

[tkme2thebedroom]

Turn offs: Cockiness, trying to boss me around, two faced with me and his friends, show off, smoker, bad breath, dirty hair, bad cologne, never paying me compliments, pissing me off, liking his mom more than me, shorter than me, dumber than me, smarter than me, and wow, the list could go on and on.

Turn ons: Green eyes, shoulder-length hair, dark hair, firm, but not too firm body, taller than me(maybe 6'2'' or more), matching my intelligence, nerdy type, trumpet players, guys who play vidoe games, but aren't addicted so as to condition their fingers, knowing how to please a woman in bed without too much instruction, likes same stuff as me, would dress up in garb with me for the Renaissance Festival, loves Lord of the Rings, avid reader, can pull off wearing leather, but chooses not to, looks hot in a tight(ish) sweater.

And now, I must go find my boy...

[TinkerBell]

Turn offs: Cockiness, trying to boss me around, two faced with me and his friends, show off, smoker, bad breath, dirty hair, bad cologne, never paying me compliments, pissing me off, liking his mom more than me, shorter than me, dumber than me, smarter than me, and wow, the list could go on and on.

Turn ons: Green eyes, shoulder-length hair, dark hair, firm, but not too firm body, taller than me(maybe 6'2'' or more), matching my intelligence, nerdy type, trumpet players, guys who play vidoe games, but aren't addicted so as to condition their fingers, knowing how to please a woman in bed without too much instruction, likes same stuff as me, would dress up in garb with me for the Renaissance Festival, loves Lord of the Rings, avid reader, can pull off wearing leather, but chooses not to, looks hot in a tight(ish) sweater.

And now, I must go find my boy...


You stated alot of things I forgot or couldn't think of on the spot!

[TinkerBell]

hmmmm i got stuck on the speedo part of your post. i'm not too sure how it is a turn on. when i think speedo i think this: http://www.nutimesnewroman.neu.edu/v3i4/assets/articles/sleaze.jpg
i hope the link works.
turn ons for me:
i'm an ass girl, got to have a nice ass
nice eyes
i like a strong personality, not over bearing, but he can hold his own, have peoples respect
got to be funny, i love to laugh and laugh a lot
tattoos
goati's hmmmmm hope i spelt that right
smart


Ill have to get a pic of my fiance. Hes the only one I like in a speedo cuz hes not too skinny and hes not overweight hes perfect and I love seeing his bulge in the speedo mmmm. i think its picture time in a few! ;) lol

Edit:almost forogt! one day at our apartments swimming pool a guy who litterally looked like a persian rug he was soo damn hairy came out in a speedo/thong!!!!! I have never puked so much in my life after seeing that it was damn disgusting. There was no place that didn't have hair on that man.

[tkme2thebedroom]

Ill have to get a pic of my fiance. Hes the only one I like in a speedo cuz hes not too skinny and hes not overweight hes perfect and I love seeing his bulge in the speedo mmmm. i think its picture time in a few! ;) lol

Edit:almost forogt! one day at our apartments swimming pool a guy who litterally looked like a persian rug he was soo damn hairy came out in a speedo/thong!!!!! I have never puked so much in my life after seeing that it was damn disgusting. There was no place that didn't have hair on that man.

I'm so sorry. You poor dear girl! Don't worry, join my support group. WHACK. Wrongly Hairy-men Abused Chicks Kicking ass. It's a working title. ^_^

[TinkerBell]

hahaha I love that title! WHACK lmao!!

[skwabari_shtcak]

Well, like the rest of you, the list is long. But I found the man that filled almost all of my expectations (the only one not fulfilled is the cleaning up after yourself one).

Turn ons- family man, sense of humor, strong personality but not overbearing, likes to have fun, spontaneous, worships the ground I walk on, accepts me for who I am and doesn't try to change me, someone who can compromise (basically do whatever I say, teehee, but only sometimes) and smells really good wearing my favorite body spray for men.

Turn offs- bad tempers, cheaters, liars, arrogant to a fault (I like confident but there is a fine line), backstabbers and men who don't care about their appearance.

But like I said earlier, the list is much longer, but why dwell on that when I have the man of my dreams. I think it helped the situation to know that he has 5 sisters that helped condition him before I got to him though.

[icka]

i like a boys hip bones. i like to kiss there. as far as turn offs i dont think there is one particular thing. i think people turn me off in general.

[zoloftcasserole]

Turn Offs: metrosexuals (they creep me out), jocks/frat boys, drunks, lame pick up lines, mullets, music snobs, sweat, backwards baseball caps, loudmouths, and too much hair gel. And guys with no sense of individuality.
For example, going somewhere and 95% of the guys in the place look/smell practically the same (untucked and unbuttoned dress shirt with a wife beater underneath, crispy hair, baggy jeans, Cool Water, etc). Ew.


Turn Ons: Dark hair, dark eyes, quirky sense of humor, intelligence, originality, tattoos, common sense, manners, a natural tan (not that fake bake shit), long eyelashes, and honesty (I know everyone says that, but I mean it. When I ask if I look fat/ugly in something it's cause I actually want to know, not cause I'm fishing for a compliment.)

[magnolia]

Turn offs:

*Smoking ~ I hate the smell and since I don't smoke, I don't want to smell like I live in a bar.

*Drinking to excess ~ I don't do well with confrontation and I don't wanna be handling a drunk. I don't mind casual drinkers though.

*Too many tatoo's ~ I.E. All over the body. Can't see any regular skin. I don't mind tatoo's if they're truly symbolic for you or it just seemed cool. Just don't go overboard with em.

*Bad smell ~ Whether it's too much cologne or just bad B.O. Say it with me boys, DEODERANT, SOAP, & WATER use them and you will go far.

*Bad teeth / Breath ~ The health of your teeth are an indication of your overall health. If you don't take care of your smile it shows that you don't take care of yourself.

*Grungy Clothes ~Dress for success ('Nuff said)

*Ass Holes ~ If you think you're Mr. Tuff guy, then you can walk. I deal with that shit too much already.


Turn on's:

*People who stand up for their beliefs. ~If you can stick to your guns when you know you're right then that's my guy.

*People who can admit when they're wrong. ~Don't be a dick if you know you were wrong.

*Clean shaven / manicured ~ You don't have to go to the beauty shop, but if you groom regularly I love it. Some facial hair is fine, but don't let it get out of control. Gel the hair and take showers reguarly. I wanna say, "Damn you're fine!" not, "Damn! Take a shower dude!"

*Well dressed ~ You don't have to be an Abercrombie or an A&E model, but don't wear clothes that have holes in the crotch or are stained. When you dress for success, you are more successful. (P.s. You can look really good with clothes from Target or Wal~Mart. ;) )

*Observant ~ If you notice my new shoes or a hair cut you are truely my hero.

*Inteligent ~ No, not Fraiser Crane smart ass pompus inteligent, but smart enough to know that oxymoron is not an insult.

*Caring ~ A person who cares enough to ask me how my day was or ask how I'm feeling when I look a little sick.

Yeop. That's my list for now. Who knows, I may add more later. (Ps, there are guys who fit the bill out there cuz I'm dating one of 'em. :woohoo: )

[TinkerBell]

Turn on's:

*People who stand up for their beliefs. ~If you can stick to your guns when you know you're right then that's my guy.

*People who can admit when they're wrong. ~Don't be a dick if you know you were wrong.

*Clean shaven / manicured ~ You don't have to go to the beauty shop, but if you groom regularly I love it. Some facial hair is fine, but don't let it get out of control. Gel the hair and take showers reguarly. I wanna say, "Damn you're fine!" not, "Damn! Take a shower dude!"

*Well dressed ~ You don't have to be an Abercrombie or and A&E model, but don't wear clothes that have holes in the crotch or are stained. When you dress for success, you are more successful. (P.s. You can look really good with clothes from Target or Wal~Mart too. ;) )

*Observant ~ If you notice my new shoes or a hair cut you are truely my hero.

*Inteligent ~ No, not Fraiser Crane smart ass pompus inteligent, but smart enough to know that oxymoron is not an insult.

*Caring ~ A person who cares enough to ask me how my day was or ask how I'm feeling when I look a little sick.

Yeop. That's my list for now. Who knows, I may add more later. (Ps, there are guys who fit the bill out there cuz I'm dating one of 'em. :woohoo: )

I'm with ya on these as well as your last comment!!

[tkme2thebedroom]

i like a boys hip bones. i like to kiss there. as far as turn offs i dont think there is one particular thing. i think people turn me off in general.

I like to rest my head against the hip bones because it is just precariously close to going lower. Also, people are a huge turn off. Repped.

[icka]

lol. great minds think alike!

[tkme2thebedroom]

lol. great minds think alike!
must be a gemini thing :happysad:

[zoloftcasserole]

Ooh, I forgot. It's a huge turn-off when a guy I don't know thinks it's okay to just come up and start touching me. I don't care how hot they are, they need to show some courtesy.

[icka]

Ooh, I forgot. It's a huge turn-off when a guy I don't know thinks it's okay to just come up and start touching me. I don't care how hot they are, they need to show some courtesy.

people just start touching you? please explainf urther as ive never had just random people come up to me and touch me

[tkme2thebedroom]

Now I have many turnons such as a nice butt flat tummy, deep soft voice, mm and speedos Ive also noticed some colognes have got me going lately. weird. I also think tattoos are cool theya ren't a turn on but they aren't a turn off. But I like em on guys. muscles are a major turn on. I honestly cant think of much more right now.


http://www.bandrpools.com/photos/tyr_lifeguard_guy.jpg

two words. me and yow. Better than speedos. Although some of those olympic divers are Oh so hot. Gay, but hot.

[zoloftcasserole]

people just start touching you? please explainf urther as ive never had just random people come up to me and touch me

Yeah, it happens mostly at the bar. That's why I don't go very often, cause guys just come up and start stroking my belly or grab my hips. That pisses me off.

[icka]

Yeah, it happens mostly at the bar. That's why I don't go very often, cause guys just come up and start stroking my belly or grab my hips. That pisses me off.

do you have a picture i want to see it

[magnolia]

do you have a picture i want to see it
I was just thinking the same thing.

[zoloftcasserole]

do you have a picture i want to see it

Sorry, I don't have a pic.

Anyways, that's the weird thing. I'm not particularly stunning or anything. I don't get why it happens. I don't wear revealing clothes(short skirts, belly shirts, thong hanging out), don't try to attract attention.........I really don't try much at all. I usually try to look crabby so they'll leave me alone. But every once in awhile these guys come crawling out of the woodwork and put their hands on me.

My only theory is I look pretty young for my age (I'm 23, but I look probably about 18), and maybe they figure I'm some naive little twit who will be easy to pick up. I don't know.

[icka]

so they come over to you - even though your not wearing a belly shirt and put there hand on your belly under your shirt? am i understanding this right?

[zoloftcasserole]

Yep. It's not really an oddity at the bar. Guys do it all the time.

[icka]

maybe you look like a whore? not your clothes just your face and how you hold yourself

im a frequent bar goer, and im certainly not ugly, ive never ever had anybody disrespect me in that manner- well until i get drunk and my true whoreness comes out.

[zoloftcasserole]

Wow, I'd like to go to your bar cause that kind of behavior is a given around here. If a girl goes to the bar, she can pretty much count on having atleast one guy approach and try to get up on her whether he was provoked or not. That's why I don't really go anymore.

[icka]

i live in new york - the city that never sleeps

i really doubt its the bars i go to vs the bars you go to

im convinced its you!

[zoloftcasserole]

i live in new york - the city that never sleeps

i really doubt its the bars i go to vs the bars you go to

im convinced its you!


I guess you've made up your mind. I don't know what to tell you other than it really happens and not just to me. Anyone who knows me would laugh at the idea of me trying to pick up guys at the bar. Oh well. :frown:

[magnolia]

Don't worry zoloft. It happens around here too. Damn redneck hicks thinkin they own every woman around here. They'll do whatever they want if you don't or can't stop them. Nobody enforced manners, so of course, they have none.

[zoloftcasserole]

It happens around here too. Damn redneck hicks thinkin they own every woman around here.

Exactly! It must be a Mid-West thing!

[zoloftcasserole]

To get back on topic, I just remembered another turn on. My friends think I'm weird cause of it but oh well. Depending on the guy, tighty whiteys can be a turn on for me. (Now, if it's some fat, hairy bastard of course it would be a turn off. But if the dudes in shape, it's a turn on.) :D

[icka]

I guess you've made up your mind. I don't know what to tell you other than it really happens and not just to me. Anyone who knows me would laugh at the idea of me trying to pick up guys at the bar. Oh well. :frown:

sorry i was suffering from severe PMS earlier. i really didnt mean what i said. im sorry if i offended you. i was wrong with implying it was your fault

[zoloftcasserole]

sorry i was suffering from severe PMS earlier. i really didnt mean what i said. im sorry if i offended you. i was wrong with implying it was your fault


Eh, I wasn't offended. No worries.

[Sinamon]

Turn Ons --

1. The tops of the forearm, doesnt have to be muscular, I just think it's sexy as hell to see the veins running along the length of the arm.

2. Eyes. I truly believe looking into someone's eyes is the key to seeing into their soul. Alot can be said just by looking at one another, without even a word being said.

3. A sense of humor. I love a guy that can make me laugh and be silly with at times. :D

4. Communication. I love it when they can come right out and talk with you about anything that's going wrong while the both of you try to resolve it. It seems to bring the two of you together more and more.

5. A lil facial hair. I like a lil stubble also. Or, a goatee is cute on some guys.

Turn Offs --

1. Bad Hygeine. There's nothing worse than going to kiss the one you love and expecting this wonderful moment for the two of you to share, and then OMGGGG you the smell of BO. :thumbsdn:

2. Bad Ego. A guy who thinks he's the shit and that you are just another piece of ass to him.

3. Un-Independant. Not being able to take up for yourself when you come to a compromising situation.

[TinkerBell]

Exactly! It must be a Mid-West thing!


I'm from west texas. And yes it has to be a west kinda thing cuz when I go elsewhere it really isn't the same. I go to just the resaurants that happen to have bars in them and the guys that get drunk in those are asses they just walk up place their hand where they want and go "hey baby, how bout me an you?" and yes my fiance has been standing RIGHT NEXT to me when these moments have happened. Drunk cowboys are horrid.

[Stardust]

that is a good turn on list magnolia :) my boyfriend has fills out the list almost perfectly ;)

turn ons...(2 )
- A man who can cook
- who can truly stand for what they think
- who has kind of the same way of thinking (about nature and stuff like that)
I can't think anything right now but...ill add later :)

[Stardust]

Turn Ons --

1. The tops of the forearm, doesnt have to be muscular, I just think it's sexy as hell to see the veins running along the length of the arm.

2. Eyes. I truly believe looking into someone's eyes is the key to seeing into their soul. Alot can be said just by looking at one another, without even a word being said.

3. A sense of humor. I love a guy that can make me laugh and be silly with at times. :D

4. Communication. I love it when they can come right out and talk with you about anything that's going wrong while the both of you try to resolve it. It seems to bring the two of you together more and more.

5. A lil facial hair. I like a lil stubble also. Or, a goatee is cute on some guys.

Turn Offs --

1. Bad Hygeine. There's nothing worse than going to kiss the one you love and expecting this wonderful moment for the two of you to share, and then OMGGGG you the smell of BO. :thumbsdn:

2. Bad Ego. A guy who thinks he's the shit and that you are just another piece of ass to him.

3. Un-Independant. Not being able to take up for yourself when you come to a compromising situation.


yay :) I like yours to..but..uhm damnit sorry I'm very..not focusing at all right now..

[TinkerBell]

I have a new turn on!! Discovered just last night!! Its......watching my man work on a car gettin all dirty and sweaty and mmm he just looks soo darn good when he gets done. lol I guess its cuz i see how he handles his car an take into thought how he handles me. lol but seriously he looks damn sexy covered in the black smudge. hehe I get to see it again tonite!!

[Stardust]

I have a new turn on!! Discovered just last night!! Its......watching my man work on a car gettin all dirty and sweaty and mmm he just looks soo darn good when he gets done. lol I guess its cuz i see how he handles his car an take into thought how he handles me. lol but seriously he looks damn sexy covered in the black smudge. hehe I get to see it again tonite!!


Oooh yeah! I love that to when your man work and..haha j/k when my man does it :)

[tkme2thebedroom]

To get back on topic, I just remembered another turn on. My friends think I'm weird cause of it but oh well. Depending on the guy, tighty whiteys can be a turn on for me. (Now, if it's some fat, hairy bastard of course it would be a turn off. But if the dudes in shape, it's a turn on.) :D

Omg, i can't believe you said that! I never would have thought to put it down, but me too! And also tighty whiteys can be better because men who wear boxers all the time get saggier quicker, and old man penis is just not attractive on a 25 year old. And they look so cute on guys! I mean, the whole...construction/design of them is so...male, what with the pockety goodness and all. Women should wear them and put tampons there, that way none of our evil friends would steel them or embarass us like in those commercials!

http://images.google.com/images?q=tbn:mn22aAOuzW4J:www.spa rkfashion.com/images

http://www.nudemen42.com/educationalnudemen.jpg

http://www.nudemen42.com/candidnudemen.jpg

See? tee hee :thumbsup:

[_Kitana_]

edited:

[magnolia]

Omg, i can't believe you said that! I never would have thought to put it down, but me too! And also tighty whiteys can be better because men who wear boxers all the time get saggier quicker, and old man penis is just not attractive on a 25 year old. And they look so cute on guys! I mean, the whole...construction/design of them is so...male, what with the pockety goodness and all. Women should wear them and put tampons there, that way none of our evil friends would steel them or embarass us like in those commercials!

http://images.google.com/images?q=tbn:mn22aAOuzW4J:www.spa rkfashion.com/images

http://www.nudemen42.com/educationalnudemen.jpg

http://www.nudemen42.com/candidnudemen.jpg

See? tee hee :thumbsup:
whoo hoo! Now those are some jewls to be proud of. ;)

[CatchTheWind]

I dunno. I'm more turned on by boxers. I don't know why. I just am.

But the BIGGEST TURN ON EVER? Just plain skin to skin contact.

[meh_it_all]

Boxers for me, mmmm a guy in boxers. :tongue:

[zoloftcasserole]

http://www.nudemen42.com/educationalnudemen.jpg

http://www.nudemen42.com/candidnudemen.jpg



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[FireAngel]

Turn offs: Smoking, being an asshole, or being dishonest.

Turn ons: Biting! I love for my ears to be nibbled or my shoulders and neck. I turn into putty in a guys hands when they do that. I was also the subject of a test from a friend that worked very well. He blew across my ear from behind and it sent chills down my spine (in a good way). I also get turned on by turning my guy on.

[Nymphchick]

i like a guy in boxer briefs. they are hot! shows off the guys leg, boxers are hot at times. i like backs, muscular backs,mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm and bicepts.

[Stardust]

i like a guy in boxer briefs. they are hot! shows off the guys leg, boxers are hot at times. i like backs, muscular backs,mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm and bicepts.


same here..boxers!! those others just remind me of small boys or overweight 40+

[TinkerBell]

that is a good turn on list magnolia :) my boyfriend has fills out the list almost perfectly ;)

turn ons...(2 )
- A man who can cook
- who can truly stand for what they think
- who has kind of the same way of thinking (about nature and stuff like that)
I can't think anything right now but...ill add later :)


I wont allow mine to cook, he has a serious tendency to burn things and set off smoke alrms. But now hecan barbq rather well.

[esxho]

Turn on :shaven faces, guys that are wet from swimmin or shower not sweat. freshly cut hair. Muscles definatly. I like something i can hold . .but not fat.

Turn off: Sweat n smelly. Untidy rooms, loads of stubble. Loads of pubes! overwaitness. Rough hands.etc

Can't think . . .too hot :rolleyes:

[magnolia]

I wont allow mine to cook, he has a serious tendency to burn things and set off smoke alrms. But now hecan barbq rather well.
Haha. that's how mine know's it's done is when the alarms go off. But he does make some pretty good spagetti. mmm.

[zoloftcasserole]

Another turn-on: guys who don't snore. It's not that snoring is a turn off......it's just nice to be with someone who keeps you up half the night making you moan, instead of making you want to smother him with a pillow!

[skwabari_shtcak]

I agree with the cooking thing. But my husband is not allowed in the kitchen. It takes me all day to clean up after he is done in there. But, yup, BBQ king he is. It must be a guy thing, he won't let me near his precious BBQ when he is home.