Is there something in your pocket....

[magnolia]

...Or are you just really happy to see me?

Are you and your guy ever just snuggling and spending quality time together and then *wham* he gets a hard-on and it's stickin into you?

For me it kind of ruins the moment. I'm not one who's big into sex. But after he gets hard it seems like innocent snuggling turns into more and then I turn away and he gets all sad.

He always says that as soon as we get really into snuggling I turn away and it makes him feel like I don't want him.

It's not that I don't want him, or don't like him, or anything like that. I just don't like how every time we're together I feel like it's going to end up with him wanting sex or me feeling obligated to give him a hand job.

I've tried to talk to him about it. What can I do?

Does anyone else have this problem?

[icka]

lol mike doesnt really do that but then again heis 26 i think as they get older they can control there woody's a bit better.

[_Kitana_]

...Or are you just really happy to see me?

Are you and your guy ever just snuggling and spending quality time together and then *wham* he gets a hard-on and it's stickin into you?

For me it kind of ruins the moment. I'm not one who's big into sex. But after he gets hard it seems like innocent snuggling turns into more and then I turn away and he gets all sad.

He always says that as soon as we get really into snuggling I turn away and it makes him feel like I don't want him.

It's not that I don't want him, or don't like him, or anything like that. I just don't like how every time we're together I feel like it's going to end up with him wanting sex or me feeling obligated to give him a hand job.

I've tried to talk to him about it. What can I do?

Does anyone else have this problem?

Just leave it be Mag, readjust so it doesn't poke ya and enjoy the moment. No reason to make it seem like just cause your guy gets a bit excited you need to give him sex.

[CatchTheWind]

I actually LIKE that, even if I'm not horny. It's kind of a self-esteem boost, because you know he's enjoying the moment and he's attracted to you.

[Stardust]

I actually LIKE that, even if I'm not horny. It's kind of a self-esteem boost, because you know he's enjoying the moment and he's attracted to you.


that but also sometimes I just want to snuggle..and then a woody poking your back can be frustrating..it has happened like 1time when I haven't liked it but rest of the times liked it. But try to tell him that when you want to snuggle , that he has to try to control his woody..then both would feel good and no1 would feel rejected or ruining the moment

[Tattooedchick]

I agree with you completely. My bf works full time during the day and I work during the evenings...Though I enjoy our sex romps, I also like to just snuggle at times and it seems that the times when we can get together, he pops one pretty quickly...Makes me feel like my only purpose is to get him up...Then that usually leads to a fight...fun times. :rolleyes:

[Nymphchick]

mag, have you ever wondered if you and your BF should just be friends?
if he isen't getting sex that much, then any friction with you will turn him on. so if your deeply cuddling, moving around, then yes a wood will come. thats my goal when i cuddle though, i move my ass round a lot ;).

[Blaze]

dam! isn't that som awkward shit?! i hate that. my boytoy greets me at the door, he sits down, we chat, i lean in to just cuddle and WHAM! Dick on a rise!

another scenario is when one of my good friends, a guy, comes over, he sits down, gives me a hug, then WHAM! I could swear I was in a fuckin' forest with all this WOOD! wtf? dude, you're one of my best friends, U know i don't like U like that, and you've got a dam bonner???!!!! ewwww. i know, the obvious comment would be, maybe my 'good friend' wants to be more than friends. no. not that case at all. we've already gone thru the conversation. he's just a horny bastard, that's all. i tell him this, we get a laugh about it. i tease him about 'pitching a tent' in his pants and he quips with how my big 'rack' doesn't help him any :swink: . we laugh some more. the end. my good friend is my age and he can't control his stiffie any more than my boytoy can.

yeah, i can understand the ego boost from a guy when his 'soldier stands at attention' in your presence. it puts a smurk on my face :thumbsup: . but i think it depends more on how sensitive a guy is to hormones, visual stimulation, or even suggestion. so guys, try to keep it under wraps.....makes the atmophere a little weird when you get a stiffie unawares. :confused: :rolleyes: :confuse: .

[magnolia]

mag, have you ever wondered if you and your BF should just be friends?

No. I haven't. We have a deep relationship that is far more than just physical and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

[meh_it_all]

Wood turns me on! If it was just cuddling I wouldn't mind, I am rather horny girl, so I really wouldn't mind that much, It pleases me that the guy has wood. It makes me feel special :)

[_Kitana_]

Why is it that you girls expect your guy not to get a boner when he is close to a chick he really loves. IT is not as BIG a deal as your making it be, if you love him you will just adjust and continue on with the moment, not pull away cause something natural happened.


:/

[gurlgonewild]

you should feel as obligated to satisfy his wood as he does to cuddle with you.
:tongue: lol

in my book, wood is never a problem. the more, the merrier i am.

[_Kitana_]

you should feel as obligated to satisfy his wood as he does to cuddle with you.
:tongue: lol

in my book, wood is never a problem. the more, the merrier i am.

trust me I cuddle Jesse just to hump his brains out

[TinkerBell]

when a guy gets a wood cuz we are close hell yea I am complimented and it makes me happy cuz HELLO he got one cuz of you you should feel complimented and special!! I never back away from my man when cuddling even if he gets a boner, its natural and its gonna happen cuz he likes you! Its just immature to make a big deal out of it. good lord!

[tkme2thebedroom]

when a guy gets a wood cuz we are close hell yea I am complimented and it makes me happy cuz HELLO he got one cuz of you you should feel complimented and special!! I never back away from my man when cuddling even if he gets a boner, its natural and its gonna happen cuz he likes you! Its just immature to make a big deal out of it. good lord!

You said everything I would have. I'd also like to say that I very much encourage my boy in this way. And personally, a good hug/snog is a lot better when your boy toy has a hard on pressed against you. That gets me every time.

[Nymphchick]

No. I haven't. We have a deep relationship that is far more than just physical and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

i don't doubt the fact that you care deeply for him, but are you ever turned on by him? do you ever want him? do you see the way all the girls talk about their BF's? maybe your relaitionship has gone into a deep freindship and your in denial? i think in all good relaitionships, trust of course is a very important factor, but so is chemestry, animal magnitisem, wanting the other person. i'm confused, i'm not sure you hold this for your BF. do you think its fair to keep being with him if you don't want him? maybe i am just reading you wrong, sorry if i am, but this is what i am getting from your posts.

[meh_it_all]

i don't doubt the fact that you care deeply for him, but are you ever turned on by him? do you ever want him? do you see the way all the girls talk about their BF's? maybe your relaitionship has gone into a deep freindship and your in denial? i think in all good relaitionships, trust of course is a very important factor, but so is chemestry, animal magnitisem, wanting the other person. i'm confused, i'm not sure you hold this for your BF. do you think its fair to keep being with him if you don't want him? maybe i am just reading you wrong, sorry if i am, but this is what i am getting from your posts.



I'm with Nymph, lust is a very good thing to keep a relationship going, if you didn't have lush after awhile then, you wouldn't really want each other as strongly, also I'm with Max when he says a good healthy sex life keeps a good relationship, NOW don't get me wrong, I'm not basing everything around sex. (;) )But in the end, we are all animals and we do crave it a lot, some more than others ( :tongue: ) and you know how guys are. So yes, you do have a relationship thats more than just physically but sometimes you just need physically. :D
So I'm just wandering why aren't you flattered by him getting aroused by you?
I sure as hell would be.
But of course, please don't get me wrong here mag, this is just my opinion.

[magnolia]

Ok, I do get aroused by him. Trust me, when he nibbles my neck and licks my ears it's all I can do not to jump his bones and make him moan.

But:

1) I don't like to feel obligated to be physical cuz he has a boner and wants it taken care of.

and:

2) If you read my post about my getting sick every time we have sex you'd know that it's a little more than just animal lust I have to take into consideration when we're going to make love.

We have a very healthy relationship that doesn't revolve around sex. You don't have to have sex to prove that you love each other. Maybe I'm just alone on this subject. Just wanted to see where everyone stood. Guess I'm pretty much alone.

[G's-up]

Yeah when Im snuggling with my man and MR. Monster stands at attention I just look at it as his romantic way of pointing in the direction of the sun setting in the west......or RISING in the East.......makes for beautiful sunRISES and sunsets.......... :)

[meh_it_all]

Ok, I do get aroused by him. Trust me, when he nibbles my neck and licks my ears it's all I can do not to jump his bones and make him moan.

But:

1) I don't like to feel obligated to be physical cuz he has a boner and wants it taken care of.

and:

2) If you read my post about my getting sick every time we have sex you'd know that it's a little more than just animal lust I have to take into consideration when we're going to make love.

We have a very healthy relationship that doesn't revolve around sex. You don't have to have sex to prove that you love each other. Maybe I'm just alone on this subject. Just wanted to see where everyone stood. Guess I'm pretty much alone.


I didn't say you did,I was just expressing what I thought was a good relationship tatic. You're in a tough situation, I guess you just have to live with it. :confuse:

[icka]

I'm with Nymph, lust is a very good thing to keep a relationship going, if you didn't have lush after awhile then, you wouldn't really want each other as strongly, also I'm with Max when he says a good healthy sex life keeps a good relationship, NOW don't get me wrong, I'm not basing everything around sex. (;) )But in the end, we are all animals and we do crave it a lot, some more than others ( :tongue: ) and you know how guys are. So yes, you do have a relationship thats more than just physically but sometimes you just need physically. :D
So I'm just wandering why aren't you flattered by him getting aroused by you?
I sure as hell would be.
But of course, please don't get me wrong here mag, this is just my opinion.

lust is nice - but it fades, ive never been with any guy for a long time that makes my tummy constantly tingle (maybe this is my own problem?).. i really don't think so though. me and mike dont really have "lust" anymore but we still have a healthy sex life, and a good relationship. i dont know maybe my definition of lust is different.

i still want to have sex with him - i just dont get those butterflies anymore - thats what lust is to me. so i dont necessarily think lust makes a relationship. love, stability, caring, those are things that make a relationship strong to me. now onward to the sex... there are people that probably have strnger relationships then some of us on this board and dont have sex. i actually disagree sex sometimes ruins relationships for me. ive been with many people where i just get tired and bored with them after we have sex one time (then again m crazy in the head). not that they arent any good but after the first "lustful" time its not great anymore.. thats how i discovered lust is not needed for a healthy relationship.

[meh_it_all]

Ok, you're right, sometimes it's not needed, but I guess I see it in a different way. Every relationship is different, that's why it's just my opinion.

[skwabari_shtcak]

Ok, I do get aroused by him. Trust me, when he nibbles my neck and licks my ears it's all I can do not to jump his bones and make him moan.

But:

1) I don't like to feel obligated to be physical cuz he has a boner and wants it taken care of.

and:

2) If you read my post about my getting sick every time we have sex you'd know that it's a little more than just animal lust I have to take into consideration when we're going to make love.

We have a very healthy relationship that doesn't revolve around sex. You don't have to have sex to prove that you love each other. Maybe I'm just alone on this subject. Just wanted to see where everyone stood. Guess I'm pretty much alone.


If he is too selfish to listen to you and take what you have to say into consideration then it is your problem to deal with. You are the one still with him. In all good relationships there is compromise, consideration, and understanding. You said you have tried to talking to him, so if you told him everything then he should be understanding and not pressure you. And your right not every relationship revolves around sex, but does your boyfriend feel the same way? Takes two to make a relationship work and from what I have read it sounds like it's a one way road. But that is my opinion and if i misunderstood, my bad. Just ignore everything I said then.:) Good luck.

[_Kitana_]

Ok, I do get aroused by him. Trust me, when he nibbles my neck and licks my ears it's all I can do not to jump his bones and make him moan.

But:

1) I don't like to feel obligated to be physical cuz he has a boner and wants it taken care of.

and:

2) If you read my post about my getting sick every time we have sex you'd know that it's a little more than just animal lust I have to take into consideration when we're going to make love.

We have a very healthy relationship that doesn't revolve around sex. You don't have to have sex to prove that you love each other. Maybe I'm just alone on this subject. Just wanted to see where everyone stood. Guess I'm pretty much alone.

But do you ever just get excited and wanting him when he just comes in the door, or just by sitting by him...

I just don't understand the being turned off by the boner, it natural and he can't help it.

Honestly, you don't have to give him sex cause of it. that your own personal feelings there

[Sinamon]

I agree with meh. It makes me feel good knowing that i can give him a woody so i like it. But yah, he's gotta know that it dont always mean sex and that you two can just cuddle. But getting a hard-on while cuddling is just fine by me. :D

[_Kitana_]

i move my ass round a lot ;).


You know Jesse and I was cuddling the other night and I never noticed I did this til after i read the boards, i wiggle my booty too... to get things popin

who else does that?

[meh_it_all]

Me, I'm sure people do without noticing, :tongue:

[dustinzgirl]

...Or are you just really happy to see me?

Are you and your guy ever just snuggling and spending quality time together and then *wham* he gets a hard-on and it's stickin into you?

For me it kind of ruins the moment. I'm not one who's big into sex. But after he gets hard it seems like innocent snuggling turns into more and then I turn away and he gets all sad.

He always says that as soon as we get really into snuggling I turn away and it makes him feel like I don't want him.

It's not that I don't want him, or don't like him, or anything like that. I just don't like how every time we're together I feel like it's going to end up with him wanting sex or me feeling obligated to give him a hand job.

I've tried to talk to him about it. What can I do?

Does anyone else have this problem?


Your not obligated to have sex because he gets a stiffy. Its natural instinct for men to get hard, they can not help themselves.

But, no, I dont have this problem because I love my man being, um, well you know.