How do you know when you're ready?

[Chickenzrule]

[COLOR=Purple][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Um, how do you know when you and your partner are ready for sex? Are there any signs that show he wants to go all the way? I'm a girl and I need some help here. I also don't know if I'm ready. Any suggestions or help or anything?

[FUBAR]

if your a girl and wondering......dont he wants to go all the way and is probably wondering why you have waited so long

[RGN-dRaGoN]

bassicly if ur rdy, he prly is, im not possitive cause ive never been in this sort of situation b4, but IF i had a GF, and she asks to have sex, im sure i wouldnt say no :tongue:

[Pachyderm]

Something totatlly cliche but if you're not sure that you are ready, you're probably not ready. It always help to have conversations like this with your partner, if you don't feel confortbale enough to have a convo like this with your partner, then you're not ready to do it with him. You guys both need to feel totally comfortable with each other. Often times it's pretty spontaneous, but if you're not that type of person, you probably should talk to your bf about it.

[Infected_enigma]

[COLOR=Purple][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Um, how do you know when you and your partner are ready for sex? Are there any signs that show he wants to go all the way? I'm a girl and I need some help here. I also don't know if I'm ready. Any suggestions or help or anything?

Look with guys they'll have sex with you b4 you even date if you want. We're pigs and do anything for sex. So he's ready whenever you are. btw how do you know a womans ready to have sex in a relationship? It jsut may come in handy

[mariusthegreat]

yeah..id deftnly like to know when theyre ready....hmm..maybe that way i wont get slapped everytime i ask.... : /

[Infected_enigma]

yeah..id deftnly like to know when theyre ready....hmm..maybe that way i wont get slapped everytime i ask.... : /

haha ya it would prolly end the slapping so some woman PLEASSEE tell us =/

[dbmott]

Well, I think age is a factor too, 14 is the legal limit and you can't have sex with anyone 4 years older or younger than that until your legally an adult with liscense and everything. I think the more important factor is not letting whoever you want to do it with for the first time take advantage of you and dump you right after and such. I'd make sure hes a genuine guy and you should sit down and talk to him and if he seems to eager about it then I think I'd wait even longer, you don't want someone who is just itching for sex. Gotta make sure you both agree to do it, then look at ways of protection... I think the most promising factor of how you know you feel your ready, at least in my opinion is, how do you feel after you masturbate, do you feel all guilty? Or do you feel like you want more? Or do you feel like its a normal thing? If you feel bad or guilty, you'll probably feel a hundred times worse if you actually do it at that time. Make sure you feel comfortable and OK sexually before you jump in to actually doing it. Peace out.

[Pachyderm]

I am a girl and I like to talk about sex a lot. Don't let a girl fool you, their just as interested in as you are but they wont be so blunt about asking. We want to know you guys are the right choice for us because to some of us it is a big deal. It's more likely that a girl will have sex with you if she is completely comfotable with you, and if you can talk about anything, including when you'd might like to have sex, that's a bonus.
I wouldn't really mind if a boyfriend asked me if I wanted to do it with him, as long as he doesn't say "comon lets do it..comon" No..it has to be like, "I was wondering..you know..if you're not ready then I am not ready, I'll wait, I just wanted to know if you were comfortable" you know that type of questiion. it might sound cheesey and boys don't want to do that really but it's the way to go. And if the girl says not yet, you have to respect that, and if you are frustrated, ask her "well what are you willing to do?" Don't just leave her cuz all she wants to do is make out right now.

[yotaka]

I'm 13 and you may think because of it I probably don't know about sex at all but that is totally not true. At my school most of the girls are total sluts and plenty of them arn't virgins (keep in mind we all just got out of 7th grade 4 petsakes). So those kind of girls guys don't worry about even asking (which I'm sure you know) but as 4 the others you're gonna probably have to wait till they actually come out and say they want to. Because if they want to, believe me, they will let you know when they are ;) Like they say, most girls who are the quietest are the best at having sex usually.

[Infected_enigma]

hrm ya I was just wondering because I haven't dated much and most of my friends who are women aren't the best to talk about to this either, they're drug users, one's in jail another will sleep with any guy she sees practically, and the other has a really fucked up home life.

But thanks a ton it'll help :D

[badassmtbiker]

if you're asking...

you're not ready

[mariusthegreat]

what happened to the whole waiting to get married bid?.....

[yotaka]

what happened to the whole waiting to get married bid?.....
pls, as most people I know would say "Getting married is sooo overrated" But of coarse I live in L.A. So I guess it doesn't really count... :D

[Child of Bodom]

I'm 13 and you may think because of it I probably don't know about sex at all but that is totally not true. At my school most of the girls are total sluts and plenty of them arn't virgins (keep in mind we all just got out of 7th grade 4 petsakes). So those kind of girls guys don't worry about even asking (which I'm sure you know) but as 4 the others you're gonna probably have to wait till they actually come out and say they want to. Because if they want to, believe me, they will let you know when they are ;) Like they say, most girls who are the quietest are the best at having sex usually.

*blinks* oooookay *takes notes*

[Hypertron]

well i knew my g/f was ready when she threw me on the bed...just a small sign she wanted to. i think the condom she thew at me was a pretty good one too.

[yotaka]

well i knew my g/f was ready when she threw me on the bed...just a small sign she wanted to. i think the condom she thew at me was a pretty good one too.
See! You just have to wait! They'll let you know. ;)

[magnolia]

I would like to wait until I got married, but if the right guy came along, I wouldn't mind giving it up early. But it's gadda take a lot for him to convince me first.

[Hypertron]

My g/f told me that i somehow talked her into it. Which i don't remember cuz i never really talked about sex and when i did i was jus playin around. She said that it was stuff i did and i could see how she could tell me that cuz the few weeks before i would just randomly show up at her house with some roses and gave her a cookie from her favorite resturant and gave her a kiss before i had to go to football practice, but sex was the last thing on my mind when i did stuff like that, i just love seeing her smile!

[magnolia]

U sound like a total sweetheart. I hope I find a guy like u. That's really sweet.

[Hypertron]

U sound like a total sweetheart. I hope I find a guy like u. That's really sweet.

thanks magnolia...she always says, "your so amazing i don't deserve you" and stuff like that which i think is the complete opposite cuz i don't think i deserve her. the other day she said something when she was in a bad mood about her not exspecting me to forgive her for stuff shes done and all i said was "we have been through this before, i do forgive you, and even if i didn't there is anything we can do to change it and i do know you and i love you for you and thats why i am gonna marry you." she cried and i kinda felt bad...she was just like "wow".

[yotaka]

Awwwwww..... So kawaii (cute in Japanese)! :cryme:

[magnolia]

wow is right. She sounds like a lucky lucky woman. *sigh* Great, now I gadda find one of u around here. :P Wish me luck.

[Hypertron]

good luck it shouldn't be that hard...it will probably be in someone you never thought of before...ya never know but good luck!

[TwisT]

[COLOR=Purple][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Um, how do you know when you and your partner are ready for sex? Are there any signs that show he wants to go all the way? I'm a girl and I need some help here. I also don't know if I'm ready. Any suggestions or help or anything?

This is an example of a severely stupid fuckin Q.....

If you have to ask.. :hand: Then you are obviously not ready....
Make sure you use some fuking contraceptives......If you can't figure this one out on your own, you should'nt be fuckin......Kiddo... :dunce:

[dustinzgirl]

[COLOR=Purple][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Um, how do you know when you and your partner are ready for sex? Are there any signs that show he wants to go all the way? I'm a girl and I need some help here. I also don't know if I'm ready. Any suggestions or help or anything?


If you have to ask, You are NOT ready!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[durtytoothbrush]

I suggest taking it slow for as long as you can. There are other ways to have sex without intercourse that are kind of a fun way to work your way up to actual sex. if you are uncomfortable doing a lot of that then you are definately not ready to go all the way. I don't think you are not ready if you are asking- it means you are being responsible and curious. You'll know when you are ready.
this is so cute, i remember being a virgin *tear*

[mariusthegreat]

My g/f told me that i somehow talked her into it. Which i don't remember cuz i never really talked about sex and when i did i was jus playin around. She said that it was stuff i did and i could see how she could tell me that cuz the few weeks before i would just randomly show up at her house with some roses and gave her a cookie from her favorite resturant and gave her a kiss before i had to go to football practice, but sex was the last thing on my mind when i did stuff like that, i just love seeing her smile!

I too was what she or any other girl wanted. I acted normal, wrote her poems, took her out, treated her with respect, with dignity and honor. I always had flowers for her, had little surprises. It was never about spending money on her, as to how many of the times it was things i made for her. Cards, scrap book, poems, drawings....letters. You name it and I was willing to do it for her. We both lost our virginity to each other, so it was really special. To both of us, Id hope. Anyways. When she broke up with me, because of it, she threw it in my face. She threw the fact that we were having pre-marital sex at me, as if it was something I watned to do. Granted I did, it never was my goal or ultimate intention. I loved her for her, her heart. not her womanhood and her panties. Anyways, I was devastated, I kept thinking over and over, the thought that she was willing to give it up after 4 months of dating. Honestly it wasnt till the third time we got down to doing it, that I finally decided to go through with it. Sex was the last thing on my mind while I was with her. Now im still trying to move on, but it kinda sucks that she did that to me..eh :/ or at least how she threw in my face.

[durtytoothbrush]

wow, i thought that guys like y'all were extinct.

[spidercide]

id say you know your ready if he means alot to you and you know you can trust him, see guys dont really give a shit unless they are pussies, most guys just wanna have sex, they wont save it, that doesnt mean your boyfriend is using you though, sex is differant to anyone, i dont care what girl im fucking as long as im attracted to her and she is clean. i hate girlfriends, they are exspenive, but for a girl, if you feel your ready your thikng amd i ready i guess you are, cause obviosuly if your saving sex then it means something to you. but i mean, it wouldnt really be something you can ask other people, its something you would feel inside yourself. just go along with it, when it happens it happens, if i were you though, i wouldnt base it on when your ready, i would base it on trust, do you trust and like the guy your with? yes? ok then start having sex

[durtytoothbrush]

id say you know your ready if he means alot to you and you know you can trust him, see guys dont really give a shit unless they are pussies, most guys just wanna have sex, they wont save it, that doesnt mean your boyfriend is using you though, sex is differant to anyone, i dont care what girl im fucking as long as im attracted to her and she is clean. i hate girlfriends, they are exspenive, but for a girl, if you feel your ready your thikng amd i ready i guess you are, cause obviosuly if your saving sex then it means something to you. but i mean, it wouldnt really be something you can ask other people, its something you would feel inside yourself. just go along with it, when it happens it happens, if i were you though, i wouldnt base it on when your ready, i would base it on trust, do you trust and like the guy your with? yes? ok then start having sex

wow that's the first half-decent thing I've seen you post- good job

[cheerup.emokid]

okay my 1st time was when i was 14 so take this advice or not here it is. im not a slut or a whore or anything like that. i had known the guy for a week but i didn't care. i was redy. he was redy. as far as we had gone b4 was just making out i think. so we snuck over to the golf course across the street from his house and u know what happened. im not ashamed or anything. if u like this guy enuf just tell him ur redy when he is and urge him to make to 1st move. but get condoms handy, that always helps!

[TwisT]

wow, i thought that guys like y'all were extinct.

Nope!!, still kickin in the sunshine state.. :thumbsup: