Sex Toys

[Nymphchick]

at work today, the topic got brought up. a woman i work with thinks they are morally wrong, which i can understand why she feels this (religious reasons). so i decide to ask her to elaberate. she starts telling me how there is something morally wrong with a man if he feels the need to include one during the act of "making love". so i ask her, well what if your just feeling really kinky and you just want to spice things up? she says no, sex is an emotional connection between two people and there is no reason why he should feel the need to "degrade" the woman by bringing a toy into the action. so i think about this for a minute, i can agree with the emotional bonding, but there comes a time where you just want to get dirty and naughty. so i press farther into her hatred of the toyz, she says it leads to many bad things. hmmmm so i ask what. she says if a man feels the need to bring sex toyz in during sex then he is weird. i ask how so. she continues to explain that it could lead a man to being a pedophile, pervert, or more. i was a little stunned by this, wondering how a sex toy could do such a thing. so i ask well what if a woman wants to include one, then what, does that mean she could be all that as well? she responds no. i ask why but she never had a clear answer. she just says its wrong if men do. i was so confused. so anyhoo on to my question. do you think it is morally wrong if a man wants to include a toy during sex? i don't mean a dildo or anything, like a pocket rocket, or a g-spot thingy? whats the difference between men and women wanting to include such a thing in sex?

[switch_scribe]

(in my opinion) Between consenting adults of any gender/sex combination, sex toys are a-ok.
I think most people just use them in private though. When you bring something that sounds like a jet engine into the bedroom, there's just too much margin for error; and therefore laughter.

As to the possible religious aspects of it? I really don't know. The closest I can think up is:

sex = fun
fun = evil
sex with toys is more fun than sex without toys
sex with toys is therefore more evil than sex without toys.

That's my experience with religion.

btw - the second part of my sig specifically refers to sex toys. Reference the almighty Janeane Garofalo.

[meh_it_all]

I think switch is on the ball. I think more people use it in private as she said.
The whole perverted act of it.. hmm.. Well I think maybe she (as the person you work with) doesn't think a guy should think like that, Or maybe she's scared about the fact, if this would happen to her.
I don't see anything wrong with it, I really don't think it would lead to such things, Because hasn't it been proven how a pedophile becomes a pedophile; he didn't either have a father around or.. his father abused him..sexually?
So, in conculsion, if he gets more pleasure from an ADULT women then really why should it matter?.. Hmm.. just my view. I think it makes sense. :confused:
(Sorry if it doesn't, It's early morning for me.)

[asdalover]

Personally, if the bloke i'm with wants to include one then i'm all for it. In fact, we have and it was fun.

Of course, shoving it in front of people might change my opinion but generally, if its between 2 people who both want to do it then why not.

[Stardust]

I don't think it's wrong at all, yeah it is a very special moment between 2people thingies..but eyh..if you want to be a little kinky what is wrong with that?
What if we would of never put spices in our food becouse it's "dirty" our food culture would of never evolved. You have to try, some like it spicy some don't it's just about what makes you comfortable :)

[_Kitana_]

i guess i don't find sex toys fun or intresting...

[dustinzgirl]

Nymph, that coworker is an idiot. That is like saying marijuanna is a gateway drug, but alcohol is not. There is not a distinction, she simply does not like men, she probably believes that women can not be pedophiles. She is making a huge assumption. She probably also dislikes men, she may have some serious sexual contact issues. She really needs to just get fucked hard and fast and dirty, then she will change her mind.

And what rleigion dictates what kind of sex you get to have? WTF?

Just another reason why I am anti-organized religion.

[_Kitana_]

in alrespect. It sounds like your coworker could of been sexualy abused.

[Nymphchick]

i don't think sex toys leed to pedophiles, i think child molstation does, but thats my own oppinion.

[_Kitana_]

i don't think sex toys leed to pedophiles, i think child molstation does, but thats my own oppinion.
I never said it did but what I am saying is that such a strange out look to believe something like that, that she may have been sexualy abused.